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The soundtrack to my sex life


Music is something deeply specific to each person. I believe it would be impossible for there to be two people who had exactly the same taste and responses to sound. It is simply too personal. And yet it unites us all. I’ve never met anyone who didn’t enjoy some form of music. I read somewhere that that is because melody, rhythm and harmony are universally pleasing to the human brain, so that no matter what our tastes may be, we will always enjoy something. Finding someone who shares your tastes closely enough to be able to agree on sex music, however, is still a big ask. No one on my (admittedly short) list of ex-lovers had anywhere near my taste in music, although I did try to find common ground for the purposes of creating a kinky soundtrack to use in *intimate* moments. Music has always made me feel sexy, and want to move; it can completely control my mood, so that my emotions follow the melody and my pulse throbs in time with the beat. I am constantly on the hunt for new music, and my preferred listening material ranges widely across genres. But as I put together this playlist, I did notice a leaning towards the industrial, synth-pop, EBM side of things, and decided to make that the overall theme. I think that goes perfectly with who I am as a sexual being, or rather, sex pest.

Some of my picks are outrageous fuck-songs that I listen to alone and think about what an amazing sex life I’ll have one day when I find someone who has the same musical taste as me, and others that are attached to some real-life memories. I hope you guys are ready for the filth. Enjoy.

TRIGGER WARNING: THESE VIDEOS CONTAIN ADULT FOOTAGE AND LYRICS 

VNV Nation - Control

This track is a recent discovery of mine, that I heard first heard on the dancefloor while out at a goth/alt night in Cardiff. I googled the lyrics when I got home and have been playing it on heavy rotation, especially when I'm making art or working. The energy in this song is incredible. Hearing lead singer Ronan Harris growl 'I want control' right before the base drops is enough to get me there, to be perfectly honest.  


Nine Inch Nails - Closer

I've made a lot of art about this song, and I listen to it at least once a week. It's one of my favourite all-time tracks, not just something I put on to get in the mood for a shag. I relate deeply to the lyrics and with Trent Reznor's narrative of sex as escape - freedom from one's self. It mixes the absolutely base primal impulses and compulsions with death-like transcendance perfectly. The line 'you get me closer to god' is everything.


Lana Del Rey - Lolita

Almost everything by Lana is incredibly sexy and sensual, and perfect for setting a darkly romantic mood. I love her soft ghetto Lolita vibe, and she gets away with whispering some pretty provocative lyrics. If you're looking for them (as I am) you'll notice she plays many different sexual roles and characters in her videos, which are unfailingly steamy. I can't help thinking that her mind works very much the way mine does, and I'm pretty sure I'll adore her forever. It was hard picking just one track but in the end I went with this one for its overall theme and, and I like this home-made montage video.


Combichrist - This Shit Will Fuck You Up

Well, heck, what can I say about this song? It's not for the faint-hearted. If you can handle the absolutely relentless speed of it then it's a great one to lose yourself to. Combichrist are actually an amazing band within the industrial rock genre, who have churned out some epic goth-trance bangers over the years. Check out 'Get Your Body Beat'  and 'Fuck Machine' as well if you like the sound of them. 



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How To Make Stuff

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Sometimes life is not inspiring. Sometimes life is shit. There are days when I spend an embarrassingly long time deciding whether or not it’s worth washing my greasy hair, or whether I should bother tearing myself away from my phone long enough to get dressed. We all hope that if we find the key to creativity, or learn enough tips from those who have; if we learn the secret that all those other bloggers have (Who are they, these competitors? Are they real? Or, to paraphrase Nine Inch Nails, have we just made them up to hurt ourselves?) that we’ll start magically spewing artistic gold all over the place like so much creative vomit. But that really is a misconception. Some people’s ‘creativity’ is really discipline. Mine is probably nothing more sophisticated or glamorous than my hormonal cycle. I certainly have an artistic temperament, even when I am making nothing of any significance. I find it hard to focus on menial tasks and my mind wanders a lot. I get ideas at strange times and places and have no choice but to drop whatever I’m doing and follow my instincts. I believe everybody works in different ways, and creativity is something that is accessible to us all; it is a force that can be harnessed, once we learn how our individual creativity works. There are a lot of tips around for bloggers, on how to maintain your creativity, how to “stay inspired”. None of them have ever worked for me, and I’m sure many of you reading would say the same. But there are some very common hurdles to creativity we all have to get past before we allow ourselves to be artists, and so I thought I’d share some of mine. These obstacles are very difficult to overcome. But it can be done.

Fatigue: We all have those days when we get out of bed and just go, ‘nah’, and get straight back in. Especially people like me, who freelance and work at home, and have no office to go to. I find it helpful to leave my phone out of reach of my bed, or even my room, so that I’m not tempted to stay under the covers and browse Twitter until noon. Hours can go by in bed, staring at a phone. Get the fuck up and make some breakfast.

Procrastination: This is my biggest obstacle to being creative. The hardest part is figuring out where your real procrastination time is spent. Everyone knows that the time we spend on YouTube watching beauty-haul videos isn’t the most productive. But it’s a little harder to admit that your relationship drama is draining you, or your toxic friends are wasting your time. Look for the real sources of procrastination in your life. What do you do, to avoid focusing on you?

Comparison: Do. Not. Compare. Yourself. To. Anyone. Ever. Seriously, why would you do that? Don’t be silly. Focus on your own shit. Don’t look at what other people are doing. DO THE WORK. Stop looking at the other girl. She’s busy focusing on herself.

Self-Doubt: I have literally no tips for this. It’s a bitch. You just have to push through and battle your demons. Literally everyone I know struggles with this, so in a sense, I guess my only tip is…get used to it. Make things anyway. 

Snow White Make-Up Look

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Now I really have next to no clue when it comes to make-up. The only things I know, I’ve learnt from watching YouTubers like Essie Button and Arden Rose, while sitting in my onesie and eating Pringles. I don’t have much in terms of products; only recently has make-up become something I will treat myself to when out shopping. I’ve always been a fashion-splurger, and a book-splurger, and a candy-splurger instead. I’ve been known to spend a tenner on Skittles in one weekend. But I’ve managed to build up a little stash of high-quality, essential products that perform really well, and a resume of maybe ten different looks that I know suit me and my colouring. Most of them are based on movie or literary characters, because that’s sort of my thing, in case you hadn’t noticed. During this super-exciting time of transitioning into autumn, the one I’m wearing most is my Snow White look, so I thought I’d show you how I do it. However, really a tutorial. There are so many people who can do that better than I would, and I cba, tbh.

I’ll simply walk you through it. Specific products are not important AT ALL, you can do this look with whatever you have lying around. Start by moisturising your skin really well. Really, really well. And then a little more. Then take your foundation, and using your fingers or a buffer brush, start working it into your skin from the centre of your face, spreading outwards from your t-zone. Add concealer if you need it, but be careful not to make the area around your eyes too white. You want the skin to look natural. I used a matte brown eyeshadow to fill out my eyebrows, then applied a single coat of mascara. We don’t want clumps here. A little eyeliner is optional. And lastly, for the lips, I applied matte red lipstick with a deep red gloss over the top.

What make-up looks are you wearing this autumn? Also, let me know in the comments if you’d like to see me do more beauty looks for famous characters or fairy-tale heroines!

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racing from the rising tide to my father's door

It’s been a long time since I showed you guys around my house. Some of you who have been reading my blog since the beginning will have seen glimpses here and there, but even then, I doubt there are very many among you who know where, and with whom, I actually live. It’s one of the only things I’ve been even remotely secretive about; partly because for a long time, home has been a difficult subject for me. It’s been a source of stress, worry, and feelings of frustration. If you’ve read my ‘About’ section you’ll have seen that I move around a lot; usually between my father’s house in Pembrokeshire, my mother’s apartment in Cardiff, and my friend’s flats in London (if I’m lucky). I have never thought of it as my ‘home’, but the only place I really have my own space is in my dad’s place in Pembroke. That has been my base for a few years now, even though there have been times when I have truly hated it and wouldn’t even let my friends come and visit me there. My father isn’t the tidiest of people (no points for spotting the massive understatement) and Pembroke has got to be one of the most soul-crushingly banal places on Earth. I share the upstairs floor of the house with my brother, and my dad has the downstairs. I’ve managed to carve out a haven for myself despite not really wanting to; I’ve seen my friends and my family move on to better places, and for a long time I’ve felt stuck in limbo, unable to join them or move along my own path. After I leave, I probably won’t come back here for a very, very long time; and so I thought I should record it while I still have the chance.

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It’s not your typical blogger space. I have my fair share of Yankee candles and decorative orchids lying about, but there is also a lot of random things that no one else wanted, and boxes of stuff I’ve kept in storage. Most of it isn’t photogenic at all, and huge clear-outs are a weekly occurrence in my hoarder household. All my furniture is either an antique or from Ikea. I have two wardrobes full of clothes, and an exposed rail as well. You could say I have a lot of shit. I’m lucky in that my bedroom is really big, by far the largest room in the house, and there’s plenty of room for my king-size sleigh bed that my mum palmed-off to me. Its slats are nearly broken and if you sit down on the bed too abruptly the whole thing falls through, which stopped being funny about two years ago. My windows are really old, single pane glass back from when the house was first built, so when the wind blows outside, it blows in my room too. On the rare occasion that I do have guests over to the house, my bedroom serves as living room, kitchen and sleeping area. And in the evenings it is where my brother and I watch movies and pig out on my bed. I do not think I will miss it when I am gone; I think I will be too busy putting together my new life to think about the past. But I might be wrong.

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Dark Jinx

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Camisole, Topshop // Necklace and earrings*, both Dark Jinx

I am a huge, huge fan of Perspex and acrylic jewellery. When I was growing up the idea of a Tatty Devine name-plate necklace was the height of cool (as it is now, actually…) and ever since then I’ve been adding new bits to my collection, hunting out especially quirky designs wherever I can find them. I came across Dark Jinx on Twitter and immediately started coveting their entire line! They’ve only just launched their first collection, a really eclectic, kooky mix of patterns and colours with a plastic-fantastic, futuristic vibe. As soon as I saw them I completely fell in love with these mermaid earrings (we’re all mermaids, deep down, and don’t let anyone tell you different). I love anything even remotely fairy-tale themed or whimsical, especially with my jewellery. I don’t wear all that much, but when I do I like to wear bright statement pieces that are worth the hassle.

The other piece I picked was this Tox necklace, which reminded me of something designed for the band Chvrches, because it’s so geometric! It makes me think of space and meteors and diamonds and alien life-forms. The plastic is super reflective and mirror-like, and goes beautifully over black clothes or bare skin. I wear it with a black skater dress or on top of a silver silk camisole. How do you guys feel about plastic jewellery? Is it something you wear a lot too? Let me know below in the comments!

I’m sorry I’ve been MIA on the blog-post front recently, I’ve just had so much life shit getting in the way of doing what I want to do. Normal service will now resume. A huge thank you to everyone who entered my teapigs giveaway, it was such fun to do that I plan on holding another one when I get to 600 Bloglovin followers, so if you aren’t following me already, then, well, what you playing at?

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teapigs matcha drink review and giveaway

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Hello everyone and welcome to my very first giveaway! I feel so happy to be working with such an awesome brand, teapigs, for my giveaway debut. I’ve been meaning to do one for such a long, long time, and I’m so excited to be finally doing it. I have a really special treat to give to one lucky reader; a set of super healthy and delicious matcha tea drinks from teapigs! Matcha tea is a super-concentrated version of green tea, packed full of antioxidants and yummy flavonoids, and mixed up with tasty grapefruit, apple or elderflower juice. My personal favourite is the elderflower; it’s so sweet and delicious that even people who don’t really like the taste of green tea will enjoy them. Personally I’ve always been a big fan of green tea and green juices, and these drinks are like a delightful mix of the two! Really sweet and refreshing, with that distinctive fresh green tea taste running through them. I’ve been focusing on my health more than anything lately (I’ve decided to train for a half-marathon! Wish me luck, I will freaking need it) and having loads of healthy snacks and drinks around really helps keeps it interesting. Sooooo….in the spirit of staying healthy and enjoying it, I thought I’d give one of you guys a set of drinks to try out for yourself. It's only open to entrants with a UK posting address, but all you have to do to enter is follow my blog via Bloglovin, and if you want to get some extra entries just follow me on Twitter, tweet about the giveaway, or leave a comment down below. Not only that, but I have a 10% discount code at teapigs for every one of you to use if you want to go shopping for yourself! Just enter the code ‘thepersephonecomplex’ at the checkout! Don’t say I don’t treat you.


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stop trying to make fetch happen

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shirt*, Truffle Shuffle // skirt, ebay // backpack, SanRio // sneakers, Nike // bracelets, gifts

I never really wore much pink growing up. It was something I only got into in my late teens, and even today I only have a few pieces in my wardrobe that I actually wear. One of my pink staples is this backpack;  it has been absolutely everywhere with me over the last couple of years. It was a Christmas present from my late grandmother, given in a completely innocent spirit, because she knew I liked Hello Kitty; but it’s been to the seediest places imaginable, and some unimaginable. I use it as an overnight bag whenever I go on adventures to London, and it carries all my equipment when I go on photo-shoots.

One of the reasons I love this shirt from Truffle Shuffle is because it has a little accent of pink on grey and white, so it’s super wearable. The dripping font is what first caught my eye, but I also love the looks people give me when they focus in on my chest to try and read it; from men and elderly women, it’s just complete confusion, but girls my age smile at me and we have a little moment for Gretchen Wieners. The only thing I would say about the shirt is that Truffle Shuffle sizing is a bit big, so you might want to go a size smaller. I’m a UK size 10 usually, so I got a Small, but it’s massive on me! Good thing I like baggy clothes. I wore it to go running last night and felt far more fabulous than usual. Although I really should get rid of those leggings with the hole in the arse, they’re not making me feel so great. I’ve started running LOADS lately so if anyone knows any great tips or cool fitness blogs, hook me up below in the comments.

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